The Spirit of Adoption

NEW BLOG LINK!!!

2010-06-08T12:46:00.000-07:00

Please make note that I will no longer be posting on this website.
My new blog address is www.thespiritofadoption.wordpress.com
If you follow my blog, please take note of the change, and if you have a blog link to my blog on your blog, please edit the address!!!

Thanks a bunch,
Tracie

Family Photo: Brett and Lori

2010-06-08T09:15:00.000-07:00

I know I already posted a congratulations to Brett and Lori, but they now have a sweet "family picture" that I wanted to share.

This big brother waited and prayed faithfully a long time for his precious sister! Don't you just love this!

Available Situation Update

2010-06-08T07:29:00.001-07:00

CC, gender unk, due in Sept, AZ, 28.5K plus 6K living
CC/AA, gender unk, due June 15, AL, 30K

CC/Hisp, gender unk, due Nov, IL, 20K plus 5K living

3/4 Hisp/1/4 NA baby boy, due Aug 28th, UT 30K plus full medical (5-7K) ICWA legals are 3K

3/4 AA, 1/4 CC boy, due July 28th, UT 16K plus possible medical (5-7K), possible special needs (contact for more details)

AA baby girl, due July 27th, GA 16K plus 4K legal (BM has sickle cell trait)

AA baby boy, due July 12th, VA 16K plus 5K legal

For more information about our services, please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Congratulations Brett and Lori (and big brother Mason)

2010-05-18T19:11:00.000-07:00

Sometimes the wait is longer than we'd like, and Brett and Lori know first hand the heartache of waiting. And then their gift arrived. Beautiful and perfect, and I'm sure well worth the wait.

Brett and Lori, congratulations on the birth of your daughter. The Lord is faithful.

And a great BIG congratulations to big brother Mason! You're a might handsome big brother, and I'm pretty sure that little sister of yours will always have you watching out for her and protecting her.

And I just read this quote on Lori's facebook page and had to share:

"Mom, she is just like the baby I had dreams about.... except for whatever that is on her belly button. That definitely wasn't in my dream."- Mason

Family Needed for 11 Year Old Boy

2010-05-18T10:57:00.000-07:00

Looking for a family to adopt an 11 year old boy here in the US through one of our agencies.

I will not post more information at the moment due to the sensitive nature of this situation.

If you are home study ready and open to adopting an older child, please email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Blessings,

Tracie

Congratulations Greg and Jessica

2010-05-13T05:23:00.001-07:00

Congratulations Greg and Jessica on the birth of your daughter. A special congratulations to an incredible big sister as well! Don't you just love the look in big sister's eyes.

Greg and Jessica started with CAC on January 7th.

Started applying to agencies on February 24th

Then they waited, and waited.... Jessica had just joked with me earlier that same morning titling one of her emails to me "Persistent Jess," asking if I had heard about any new situations. She knew God had a baby just for them, but still waiting is hard. I kept telling her that when it happens it might happen fast, and it sure enough did.

When I got a call on Monday about a baby girl born on Mother's Day, I made a few quick phone calls around 3:30PM and by 4:00PM, Greg and Jessica were matched and their whirlwind adoption began. By 4:45PM Jess had emailed me her flight itinerary.

By 4AM the following day they left their house bound for Texas. They met their daughter at 12:30PM and by 8PM that same day they were discharged from the hospital with their precious bundle.

NOTE: to all of my waiting clients, I'm working on putting together some information for you on how to be best prepared for a WHIRLWIND ADOPTION. They happen A LOT! Hopefully my experiences, as well as the experiences of other clients will help you be prepared if your little bundle arrives in a hurry!

For more information about our services contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Available Situation UPDATE

2010-05-11T09:08:00.000-07:00

CC/Hisp girl, due in mid-May (AZ) 28.5K plus 4K living
Hisp gender UNK, due July (AZ) 28.5K plus 5K living
Bi-racial male, due June 15 (UT), 22.5K
CC, male, due June 15 (UT), 30.5K

Please keep in mind this list is representative of the situations that we hear about each week. Many of the situations, we hear about never even have time to be posted on the blog because of the speed in which they come and go.

BE READY! Get your home study, get your application and contract turned into us, and have a profile ready to go. Emergency situations come nearly every day, and you don't want to miss out! (More on how to be prepared for an emergency adoption situation in an upcoming article.)

OUR CONSULTING FEES ARE CURRENTLY 10% off.
CONSULTING FEE FOR OUR MINORITY PROGRAM are 20% off (normally 10% off)

Feel free to call me at 816-550-4707
Or email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Reasons to Use and Adoption Consultant

2010-05-11T09:05:00.000-07:00

Four years ago when we began to pursue adoption the main thing that paralyzed me was the "I don't where to start, I don't want to wait forever, and I don't have any money..." list of issues in front of me. I had never heard of an "adoption consultant" until friends of ours told us about Amy Young.

I'm not trying to drum up business, though I would jump up and down at the opportunity to help you in your adoption journey. What I do want to do is give you my simple run down of why using an adoption consultant changed my whole view of what adopting a baby would be like!

Using an adoption consultant:
1. Provides added security, protection, and peace of mind during the adoption process.
2. Provides advice on financing adoption.
3. Allows for a shorter wait time.
4. Provides connections to multiple agencies in "adoption friendly" states on your behalf.
5. Answers all those little questions you have, every step of the way.

Honestly, the reason I'm working now for Christian Adoption Consultants is because of the amazing experience that we had with them during our adoption; and because I truly want to help others walk through the journey of adoption with a sense of peace and joy!

Congratulations Eddie and Jennifer

2010-05-05T18:55:00.001-07:00

Congratulations Eddie and Jennifer on the birth of your beautiful baby girl!

Eddie and Jennifer started with Christian Adoption Consultants on March 18, 2010. They were matched on April 15th and their beautiful daughter was born May 4th!

If you would like further information on our services, please email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Available Situation Update

2010-05-04T20:03:00.001-07:00

Bi-racial boy due July 10 in UT, 22.5K

Caucasian/African American baby boy due June 1 in UT. Agency fees are 24,500 plus possible medical.

African American baby boy due June 17 in LA. Agency fees are 16K plus 4K legal.

Hispanic baby girl due in May in AZ. Agency fees are 28,500 (includes all medical and legal but finalization) plus 6K in living

Caucasian baby UNK gender due in July in FL. Agency fees are 28,500 (includes all medical and legal but finalization) plus 6K in living.

Caucasian/Hispanic baby unknown gender due in Nov. in IL. Agency fees are 28,500 (includes all medical and legal but finalization) plus 5K in assistance to mom.

Available Situation Update

2010-04-22T11:04:00.000-07:00

Caucasian, Unk Gender, July, $34K

Caucasian/Hispanic, unk Gender, Nov, $25-$30K

Caucasian/AA, Boy, June, $33K

Caucasian/AA, Boy, June, $25K

Caucasian, Boy, Apr 25, $30K

Please contact me for more information regarding our services

tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Together for Easter

2010-04-06T20:52:00.001-07:00

Just couldn't resist posting this "happy reunion" photo, as Baby Joanna meets her awesome siblings just in time for Easter!

Congratulations once again Jason and Dawn!

Adoption Tax Credit Update

2010-04-06T05:37:00.000-07:00

I always cringe when I'm asked to explain the adoption tax credit and usually manage to muddle my way through it with a "but please please ask your accountant to explain it to you" at the end!

You may have heard that the tax credit has been extended and that it has been improved. Great news for all of you starting your adoption journey this year!

For the best explanation I have read of the Adoption Tax Credit CLICK HERE!! and read an article written by attorney John Hine and adoption expert Laura Beauvais-Godwin.

Available Situation Update

2010-04-01T05:08:00.001-07:00

CC, gender UNK, Due July in FL (28.5K plus living)

CC, gender UNK, Due June in AZ (28.5K plus living)

AA male, due Ap 9, 16K plus medical (UT)

Bi-racial Male, due Ap 26, 22.5K plus legal (LA)

Bi-racial Male, Due May 11, 22.5K plus medical (UT)

CC, female, May 22, 30.5K plus medical (UT)

CC, male, May 28, 25K, UT (drug exposure, birthmom hospitalized on bedrest)

AA, gender UNK, 16K plus 4K legal, (UT)

CC/NA, girl, 30K plus 4.5K legal (alcohol exp 1st 2 months of preg, birthmom has Hep C)

AA, gender UNK, April 17 (in VA under UT law) 16K plus 4K legal

CC/AA, gender UNK, due May 1st, 24K plus 5K legal (NJ)

Available Situation UPDATE

2010-03-31T09:06:00.000-07:00

URGENT: AA baby boy with a scheduled induction date of April 9 in UT, but mom has already been to the hospital once with contractions, so it could be sooner. Agency fees are 16K plus medical.

Other Situations:
Hisp Baby boy due April 15 in UT. Agency fees are 25K plus medical. (Application for Medicaid is in, so may be minor medical fees. Mom has used meth during this pregnancy.)

CC baby boy due May 28 in UT. Agency fees are 25K. (Mom used meth during this pregnancy. Baby will probably come early - she is on bedrest for the remainder of her pregnancy.)

AA baby unknown gender due April 25 in UT. Agency fees are 16K plus medical.

CC/Native American baby girl due May 5 in OK. (UT laws will govern.) Agency fees of 30K plus legal of 4.5K. Mom has Hep C, so there is a 5% chance baby will, also.

AA baby unknown gender due April 17 in VA. (UT laws will govern.) Agency fees of 16K plus 4K legals.

AA/CC baby unknown gender due May 1 in NJ. Agency fees are 24K plus legal of 5K.

CC baby unknown gender due in FL in July Agency fees of 28.5K, plus 6K in living exp

AA baby unknown gender due in MS (UT laws will govern) in May agency fees of 17K plus 2K in living exp.

CC baby unknown gender due in June in AZ Agency fees are 28,500 plus 12K in assistance to mom. She has placed twice before with this agency.

Hisp baby unknown gender due in May in AZ. Agency fees of 28K plus 5K in assistance to mom.

AA baby unknown gender due in April in AZ. Agency fees of 19K for out of state residents and17K for AZ residents plus 2K in assistance to mom.

AA/CC Baby boy due in UT May 11. Agency fees of 22.5K plus medical.

Contact me for more info on these situations or for more info about Christian Adoption Consultants and the services we offer. tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Congratulations Jason and Dawn

2010-03-29T08:53:00.001-07:00

Isn't she a beauty?

Are you ready for this? Jason and Dawn signed a contract with Christian Adoption Consultants on March 22, 2010. They were presented with two possible situations that very next day and were officially matched on March 24, 2010 with a baby that had been born on March 23rd. They signed all their matching paperwork and got on a plane early the next morning to meet their daughter.

When I tell people who are open to minority adoption that they could literally be matched in days, I'm not sure they really believe me. Do you believe me now?

Feel free to hop over the Dawn's blog and congratulate them!

For more information on our Minority Adoption Program email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Congratulations Joe and Erin

2010-03-24T09:47:00.001-07:00

Joe and Erin started their home study process in August 2009 and finished their home study in November 2009. They began applying to agencies in December 2009. They were matched in a whirlwind the weekend of March 13th with a precious little boy who had already been born. They had to drive 5 hours to catch a plane since there were no flights out in their city that weekend. And I think within 24 hours, their son was in their arms.

Congratulations Joe and Erin on the birth of your son! You get an A+ for stepping into high gear and for your sudden initiation into the joys of parenthood! So happy for you guys!

Mac Powell Family Testimony

2010-03-18T10:52:00.001-07:00

I wanted to share this amazing adoption testimony from Mac and Amy Powell.

Celebrating Adoption in OUR HOME!

2010-03-12T11:55:00.000-08:00

Our family celebrated the birth of two of our children this month!

Our son Aiden who we adopted last year from Ukraine, celebrated his first birthday as an American citizen and as OUR SON! Happy 4th Birthday, my precious boy!

Elia Jane (pictured in my header) just turned 3 years old. Elia was adopted at birth here in the United States. She has opened our hearts to the beauty of adoption, and it is because of Elia that I do what I do today, helping other couples walk out their adoption journeys.

For more about our family, please feel free to pop over to our family blog at www.tracieloux.wordpress.com

Available Situation Update

2010-03-12T11:44:00.000-08:00

CC, Unk Gender, due July, 28.5K plus 6K living

AA, Unk Gender, due May, 17K plus 2K living

AA, Unk Gender, due April, 17-19K, plus 2K living

Hisp, Unk Gender, Due May, 28K, plus 5K living

CC, Unk Gender, due June, 28.5K, plus 12K living

Bi-racial, Male, due May 25, 22.5K plus medical

CC/Hisp, Male, due March 29, 30.5K plus medical

CC/Hisp, Male, due April 27, 30,5K plus medical

Hisp, Male, May 18, 30K plus 5-7K medical (BM used Meth)

AA, Unk Gender, April 12, 16K plus 5-7K medical

AA, Unk Gender, April 25, 16K plus 5-7K medical

AA, Unk Gender, May 18, 16K plus 5-7K medical

Please contact me for more information on how and Adoption Consultant can help you on your adoption journey. tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com or call 816-550-4707

REMINDER: Any one signing up for consulting services in MARCH will receive a 10% discount off of their consulting fees. If you are open to considering our MINORITY PROGRAM, you would receive 20% off for the month of MARCH (normally a 10% discount).

Minority Adoption

2010-03-09T13:29:00.000-08:00

There is a great need for couples open to considering minority adoption (African American newborns). If you are interested please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

For the month of March we are offering 20% off consulting services for our Minority Program.

Updated Adoption Situations

2010-03-04T17:26:00.000-08:00

Updated as of today:

Hisp Baby Boy due May 18th in UT -30K plus medical of 5-7K

AA Baby Boy due March 24th in UT -16K plus medical of 5-7K

AA Baby of Unknown Gender due April 3 in UT -16K plus medical of 5-7K

CC Unknown gender due in AZ in June -28.5K plus 12K in assistance to mom

AA/CC Baby Girl due in FL in April-25K total - includes all but finalization

AA/CC TWINS (Boy/Girl) will be born in VA - UT laws will govern Due in June. - 30K includes all but finalization and 9K in assistance to mom

AA Baby boy due March 12 in UT -16K plus medical

AA/CC Baby Boy due May 25 in UT -22.5K plus medical

Hisp Baby Boy due March 11 in UT -30.5K plus medical

CC Baby Girl due March 16 in UT -30.5K plus medical

CC/Hisp Baby boy due March 29 in UT -30.5K plus medical

If you have any questions regarding these situations or the services we provide at CAC, email me anytime at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

AND DON'T FORGET: We are offering 10% off our consulting services for the month of MARCH only, an additional 10% off applies to all clients in our Minority Program (ask for details).

Consulting Discount!!!!!!

2010-02-24T06:49:00.000-08:00

From now until the end of March we are offering 10% off of our consulting services for new clients. If you are interested in more information on working with an Adoption Consultant contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

In addition our Minority Program is always 10% off for clients open to adopting full AA children. So that would be a 20% discount during this time for our Minority Program.

Available Situation UPDATE

2010-02-18T16:14:00.000-08:00

1.) Bi-Racial Girl, FL, $25K

2.) Bi-Racial Twins, $40K

3.) AA Girl, $16K

4.) AA Boy, UT, $16K

5.) AA Boy, UT, $16K

6.) AA Boy, Feb 28, $17K

7.) AA Boy, May 4, $17K

8.) Caucasian Boy, March 8, $30K

9.) Hispanic Boy, March 11, $30K

10.) CC/Hisp, March 29, $30K

For more information on how working with an Adoption Consultant can help you on your adoption journey, contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Available Situation UPDATE

2010-01-26T11:22:00.000-08:00

Hispanic/Caucasian baby boy due in IN, Jan. 26 Agency fee of 30K plus 5K in legals and 4K in assistance to mom

Caucasian baby girl, Due in UT Feb. 4 Agency fee 30,500 + medical

Caucasian baby boy, due in UT Feb. 9 Agency fee 30,500 + medical

Caucasian baby girl due in UT March 13 Agency fee of 30,500 + medical

Caucasian/Hispanic baby boy due in UT March 29 Agency fee of 30,500 + medical

African American Baby girl due in UT March 7 Agency fee of 17,500 + medical

Caucasian Baby Boy due Feb. 19th in UT Birth mom has consumed alcohol and meth during pregnancy She is on medicaid

African American Baby boy due March 4th in UT Agency fees of 16K plus full medical (5-7K)

Please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com for more information on how working with an adoption consultant can benefit you on your adoption journey.

Jonathan and Jennifer

2010-01-21T10:52:00.000-08:00

Jonathan and Jennifer celebrated the first birthday of their son on July 23rd. What a handsome young man! I just received this new family photo and word that they would like me to serve as their consultant on their second adoption. I could not be more excited!

Jonathan and Jennifer, I am so happy for you guys and cannot wait to see who the Lord plans to add to your family this year! He is so Faithful.

Congratulations Matt and Karen

2010-01-05T06:36:00.000-08:00

Congratulations Matt and Karen on the birth of your son!

A true Christmas miracle. I'm am so happy for you guys.

As I have been reminded once again these past few weeks, there are times when we just cannot understand God's ways. The Rita Spring song, "Worth It All" has been bouncing around in my head for days:

"I don't understand Your ways
Oh but I will give You my song
Give You all of my praise
You hold on to all my pain
With it You are pulling me closer
And pulling me into Your ways

Now around every corner
And up every mountain
I'm not looking for crowns
Or the water from fountains
I'm desperate in seeking, frantic believing
That the sight of Your face
Is all that I need
I will say to You

It's gonna be worth it
It's gonna be worth it
It's gonna be worth it all
I believe this
It's gonna be worth it
It's gonna be worth it
It's gonna be worth it all
I believe this"

Matt and Karen's adoption journey was far from a fairy tale. It was wracked with disappointment, pain and sorrow. Before I met them, they had adopted a daughter, Emilie. After 4 months of having her in their home they lost her due to tribal law (Native American adoption). They came to me hearts broken, and longing to have a family. We moved forward with utmost care and did everything possible to see them matched with the safest situation possible.

They were matched very quickly with a great situation and then found out that their birth mom had a miscarriage. They were matched again and it seemed to be going so well, until Thanksgiving when they found out that they birthmother had given birth and changed her mind. Another devastating blow.

I always tell couples that we work to find the safest, least risky situations we can but at the end of the day we are still dealing with a human heart. And human hearts are often unpredictable.

It goes without saying that Matt and Karen were heart broken. I was reeling as well, and to be honest not understanding what God was up to at all. I still firmly believe and cling to Psalm 139 knowing that "all our days were written in His book before one of them came to be," and I know that God knows exactly which child will join each of my families and the exact day that they will enter their lives. That doesn't lessen the sting or the pain of watching one of my couples walk through heart ache.

So imagine our delight when we got the call that they had been matched with a beautiful baby boy who had already been born and that all of the legal consents had been signed! Isn't God amazing. December 21st Matt and Karen, got in the car to make the drive to meet their son, and on December 25th celebrated their first Christmas together as a family of three!

I'm so proud of Matt and Karen for the way they walked this journey with their hearts before the Lord, trusting Him and leaning on Him, even when they couldn't understand His Ways.

Thank You For Your Prayers

2010-01-05T06:35:00.000-08:00

I appreciate all of the kind emails and comments. We are very grateful.

I am able to take any adoption inquiries now. Feel free to email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Please Keep Our Family in Your Prayers

2009-12-24T10:59:00.001-08:00

Our family has suffered an incredible loss. My husband's brother Derek was killed in a car accident yesterday. We would appreciate your prayers during this difficult time.

Our brother Derek was a champion, a true hero living out what he preached about adoption.
Here's what one of our dear friends, Randy Bohlender wrote:

"Derek leaves a beautiful wife, Renee, and ten children, two biological daughters, five girls adopted from the Marshall Islands, and three sons adopted from the Ukraine. They are quite possibly the most beautiful assembly of human beings I have ever seen.

Derek was a powerful musician, singer and songwriter…but it was his message of adoption that rocked most of us to our core – and then he had the audacity to live out his own message right on front of us, daring us to do the same."
For more information visit my family blog at www.tracieloux.wordpress.com
and Derek and Renee's blog at louxfamilyblog.com
To read more about their ministry plase visit www.josiahfund.org

If you need to contact me about adoption please give me a few weeks to mourn this loss. If you have immediate questions please email info@christianadoptionconsultants.com
I will be back to work soon. Doing what I do, helping other families adopt, is one small way that I can keep the flame that Derek lit so boldly burning.

Congratulations Chandler and Susie

2009-12-20T22:17:00.000-08:00

Chandler and Susie started with Christian Adoption Consultants on November 6, 2009.
I finished their profile around December 9th, just as they were finishing their home study update.

On DECEMBER 9th we rushed to get their profile to a situation that we became aware of that same day! On December 10th they were presented to a birth mom and were chosen to be the parents to this beautiful baby girl. (This precious one was 6 months old)

I am happy to report that this happy little family made it home this past weekend. Just in time to prepare to celebrate their first Christmas together!

MERRY MERRY CHRISTMAS, Susie, Chandler and Baby "M"

If you are interested in learning more about Christian Adoption Consultants please email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com or call me directly 816-550-4707.

Current Available Situations

2009-12-11T19:15:00.000-08:00

The list below is representative of some of the situations available to our current clients. (See sidebar for information on how we come to post these situations)

Biracial Twins due in June in VA (UT laws will govern adoption) Agency fees of 30K includes all legals but finalization and 9K in assistance to mom

African American Baby Boy due Feb. 6th in AZ Agency fees of 10K plus 2K in assistance to mom and legals of 5K for in state family and $6500 for out of state families

Caucasian Unknown gender baby due in Feb. in NV (UT laws will govern) Agency fees of 18,500 includes all legals but finalization plus 7K in assistance to mom

African American Baby boy due Jan. 15th in IN Agency fees of 10K plus 3K in assistance to mom plus legals

African American baby girl due Jan 2010 in UT Agency fees of 18,500 plus medical (5-6K)

For more information email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com or call me at 816-550-4707

Congratulations Brian and Courtney

2009-12-08T19:42:00.000-08:00

This handsome little guy is a miracle. And I am so blessed to have played a small part in seeing him brought into his forever family.

And for proof that even big families can adopt, here he is getting loved on by each of his 9 siblings!

Congratulations to the entire "Rockstar Family" on the birth of your son and brother! He's a "Rockstar" for sure! If you'd like to know more about this precious family, visit their blog at STORING UP TREASURES.

For more information on our services please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com or call me 816-550-4707

Happy Birthday Nora!

2009-12-05T06:16:00.001-08:00

Today is Nora's Birthday! Another true gift from God to this precious family.

Congratulations John and Jackie.

Some Happy Birthday's to a Few of My Favorite Little Ones

2009-12-04T13:41:00.000-08:00

September 11, 2008 Kristi and Steven

September 25, 2008 Scott and Caroline

October 31, 2008 Steve and Tiffany

November 4th, 2008 Rusty and Elisabeth

November 24, 2008 Lizzie and Brent

Updated Adoption Situations

2009-11-10T10:56:00.000-08:00

Bi-racial (AA/CC) boy, Due: Dec 09, UT, $30K

AA boy, Dec, $17K

AA boy, Dec, $16-18K

CC unk gender, UT, March 2010, $30K

AA unk gender, IL, Dec, $15K

AA boy, IN, Jan, $16K

CC unk gender, Feb, $25K

AA unk gender, Nov, $12K

CC unk gender, IN, Feb, $35-39K

For more information about our adoption services please visit our website or call me at 1-816-550-4707

Buy a 2010 Calendar and Support Adoption

2009-10-26T12:18:00.001-07:00

100% of the suggestion donation for these awesome calendars will go to The Zoe Foundation
The "cover girl is none other than my daughter Elia Jane, pictured above in my header.

Fall Discount and New Adoption Situations

2009-10-21T13:22:00.001-07:00

I am happy to share that we are currently offering a 10% discount on any of our consulting packages! And for those of you open to Minority Adoption (AA), you will get the Fall Discount in addition to the 10% Minority Program Discount.

If you're thinking of adopting and want to talk more about CAC and the services we offer, email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com or give me a call at 816-550-4707

Here are some of the situations currently available through the agencies we work with:

* African American Baby boy due Dec. 10 in UT Agency Fee of 16K plus medical of 6-8K

* African American Baby Unknown gender due Nov. 10 in UT Agency Fee of 16K plus medical of 6-8K

* Hispanic/African American Baby Unknown gender due Nov. 24 in UT Agency Fee of 24,500 plus medical of 6-8K

* Caucasian/African American Baby Unknown gender due Dec. 10 in UT Agency Fee of 21,00 plus medical of 6-8K

* 1/4 Arabic/ 3/4 Caucasian Baby boy due Dec. 8 in UT Agency Fee 30K total including all expenses and medical

* African American Baby girl due Nov. 23 in UT Agency Fee of 16K plus medical of 6-8K

* African American Baby boy due Dec. 1 in UT Agency Fee of 16K plus medical of 6-8K

*Caucasian Baby Unknown gender due in Dec. in IN Agency fee of 25K plus legal and 4K in assistance to mom

* Caucasian Baby Unknown gender due in March in UT Agency fee of 25K - includes legals and ICPC for out of state families plus 6K in expenses to mom

* African American Baby boy due Dec. 14 in AZ Agency fee of 10K plus legal and 4K in living expenses for mom

* Portuguese/Afghan Baby Unknown gender due in Feb. in CA (CA law or your state's laws can apply) Agency fee plus legal and 4K in living expenses for mom

* Caucasian Baby Unknown Gender due in Feb. in IN Agency fees of 25K plus legal plus 4K in assistance to mom

* African American Baby boy due in Dec. in IL Agency fees of 10K plus 2K in assistance to mom and IL legals (approx. 5-6K)

* see note in sidebar regarding our adoption situations.

Posted by Karalee at 8:22 AM 0 comments

Baby Updates: NORA

2009-10-15T08:58:00.000-07:00

I love when I am able to stay in touch with the adoptive families that I've worked with. This baby Nora, now 10 months old. Isn't she absolutely gorgeous. Her mommy and daddy were working with me last year at this time.

Nora and Big Brother Tate

Nora and Mommy

Honestly, can you stand that much cuteness?

John and Jackie, It is a blessing to know you and call you friends. I'm so blessed to have played a tiny part in bringing Nora into your family. God is so good!

Congratulations AGAIN Steve and Tiffany

2009-10-13T09:25:00.001-07:00

One of my 2008 couples, just completed their 2nd adoption! Congratulations Steve and Tiffany on the birth of your beautiful daughter.

Steve and Tiffany are an incredible couple with a huge heart for adoption. They completed their first adoption in November of 2008 STORY HERE.

Eight weeks after deciding to pursue a 2nd adoption, they welcomed this little beauty to their family.

I'm so blessed to know this incredible family and to have played a small part in helping their family grow.

For more information about adoption contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Available Situation UPDATE

2009-10-09T12:27:00.000-07:00

AA, Gender UNK, Due Nov 1st, 16K + medical
AA, Gender UNK, Due Nov 10th, 16K + medical
Hisp/AA, Gender UNK, Due Nov 24th, 24.5K + medical
3/4AA 1/4CC, Gender UNK, due Dec 10th, 21K + medical
AA, Girl, due Dec 26th, 16K + medical (6-8K)

AA, boy, due Nov 10th, 16K + medical
AA, boy, due Nov 13th, 16K + medical

CC, girl, due Dec, 28.5K plus possible living expenses
Biracial, Gender UNK, Due Nov, 27.5K plus living expenses
CC, Gender UNK, Due Feb
CC, Boy, due Jan, 28.5K plus living expenses
AA, Boy, due Nov, 12K plus living expenses
AA, Boy, due Dec, 10K plus living/legal

PLEASE READ IN THE SIDE BAR FOR INFORMATION ON THESE AVAILABLE SITUATIONS!

For more information on how and Adoption Consultant can benefit you in your adoption journey, please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com or call 816-550-4707

Congratulations Tim and Mandy

2009-10-09T07:11:00.000-07:00

Tim and Mandy just welcomed a beautiful baby girl to their family!

They started with CAC on 6/30/09
Finished their home study with their local agency on 8/26/09
Were matched with a birth mom on 9/4/09
Their daughter was born 9/28/09 (5 weeks early)

If you would like more information about how Christian Adoption Consultants can help you on your adoption journey, contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com or give me a call at 816-550-4707.

Available Situation UPDATE

2009-09-28T08:07:00.000-07:00

AA female, Due Nov 6, 16K + medical
CC male, Due Oct 8, 30.5K + medical
Hisp female, Due Jan, 30.5K + medical
CC unk gender, Due Jan, 30.5K + medical

CC male, due Jan, 27.5K fees/legals + living expenses
AA male, Due Nov 10K plus legals and living expenses
CC unk gender, Due Feb, 28.5K fees/legals + living
AA male, Due Nov 2, 12K + legals/living
AA male, Due Dec, 12K plus legals
AA male, Due late Oct, 18K fees/legals, 2K living

AA male, Oct 11th, 16K +medical
CC/AA male, Oct 14th, 24.5K +medical
CC/AA gen unk, Nov 11th, 24.5K +medical

Please see the note in the side bar for an explanation of the available situations that we post. For more information on our services please email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Available Situation UPDATE

2009-09-24T11:37:00.000-07:00

Updated Agency Situations as of Monday, September 14th:

African American boy due Nov. 2 Agency Fees 12K plus legal
TWINS - Caucasian girls due in Nov. Agency Fees 28,500 plus 10K in medical and expenses for mom
African American Baby Boy due Oct. 11 Agency Fees 16K plus medical
CC/AA Baby Boy due Oct. 14 Agency Fees 24,500 plus medical
CC/AA Gender Unknown Baby due Nov.11 Agency Fees 24,500 plus medical
Caucasian Gender Unknown Baby due in March Agency Fees 38K
African American Unknown Gender Baby due in Dec. Agency Fees 18K
African American Baby Boy due in Oct. Agency Fees 20K
Biracial Baby Girl due in Dec. Agency Fees 33K

If you are interested in learning more about our services as adoption consultants contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com or feel free to give me a call 816-550-4707

Please read the information on the side bar that explains our services, how and why we post these situations.

Alana's Adoption Movie

2009-09-07T14:03:00.001-07:00

This is an amazing adoption video that one of my couples, Paul and Michelle put together to celebrate the birth and adoption of their daughter Alana Michelle.

Financing Your Adoption- Webinar August 27th

2009-08-19T18:25:00.000-07:00

I encourage you to check this out if you are interested in learning more about FINANCING YOUR ADOPTION. I'd like to thank our friends at The Abba Fund for spreading the word!

They will cover ways you can access the resources available to adopting families as well as creative ways to raise awareness and funds for your adoption. Topics include interest-free adoption loans, tax-credits, grants, church adoption funds, and creative fundraisers.

Cost is $15. Space is limited. Register HERE at their website.

Upcoming webinar:

Launching a Church Adoption Fund: For many families the number one obstacle to adoption is the cost. However, local churches can help families meet this challenge in a meaningful way. This webinar will provide a detailed overview of how to establish a simple yet effective church adoption assistance fund.

Congratulations Travis and Tanya

2009-08-14T12:21:00.000-07:00

Congratulations on the birth of your handsome son!

Travis and Tanya started with CAC in early July, finished their home study the first week in August, were matched on August 5th, and their handsome son was born on August 11th. It has been quite an exciting whirlwind for this happy couple.

If you would like information on how working with an adoption consultant can benefit you in your adoption journey, please email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Consent, Revocation, Finalization???? What Does It All Mean?

2009-07-23T13:48:00.000-07:00

A lot of the fear surrounding adoption is in regards to the lack of understanding of these three important adoption vocabulary words. I'm hoping with a little "Adoption Vocabulary 101," I can demystify some of it for you!

Consent: Consent refers to the agreement by a parent, or a person or agency acting in place of a parent, to relinquish the child for adoption and to release all rights and duties with respect to that child. In most States, the consent must be in writing and either witnessed and notarized or executed before a judge or other designated official.

Revocation: The revocation period refers to the length of time the birth mother or father has to change their mind after signing consent.

Finalization: Finalization hearings usually take place within a year of the time the child is placed in the home. Your adoption is not legally complete until you have gone through the finalization process. Prior to finalization, post-placement visits are required to be preformed by the social worker who initially completed the home study. The court will seek to establish that the child has been placed in a loving, secure home. You should be prepared to present all information included in your adoption petition, and to answer questions about why you want to adopt, how you will care for your child, how your family is and will continue adjusting, and anything else the court feels is relevant. When the judge signs the adoption order, you gain permanent, legal custody of your child! Finalization is the last formal step of the adoption process, but just the beginning of your new family.

Variations in Law from State to State: The important thing to remember is that adoption law varies from state to state. The time period in which consent is signed varies from state to state. Revocation periods do not exists in all states. There are states where consent is irrevocable at the time of signing. The length of time before finalization also varies from state to state, from as little as a few days to as long as a year.

Working with an adoption consultant can help you to understand the adoption process more fully so that your adoption take place safely and quickly. If you are interested in learning more about domestic adoption and have questions about how an adoption consultant can help, please contact me.

Tracie Loux
Adoption Consultant
www.christianadoptionconsultants.com
tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com
816-550-4707

Congratulations Craig and Linda

2009-07-23T11:58:00.001-07:00

Congratulations to my dear friends, Craig and Linda on the birth of their son Samuel.

Craig and Linda have an incredible family of now 8 children, proving that YES, even large families can adopt!

This little one is about to be smothered with LOVE!

If you would like more information on adoption, contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Congratulations Paul and Michelle

2009-05-28T06:18:00.000-07:00

Congratulations, Paul and Michelle on the birth of your beautiful baby girl!

Paul and Michelle completed their home study at the beginning of March and were matched on May 25th. They flew out to pick up their baby girl on May 26th and she was in their arms on May 27th.

This is truly an incredible story and if you'd like to read more, you can visit their blog HERE.

God, you are so faithful!

Happy 1st Birthday to My First Client's Baby

2009-05-24T13:36:00.000-07:00

Jeremiah is the son of my very first clients. He turned 1 year old only on April 16th. Jeremiah was born 10 weeks early. When I got a contact from an agency needing a family willing to accept a baby who was premature with a grade 4 brain bleed on his left side making him high-risk for cerebral palsy, blindness and deafness, oh and one that was willing walk through a lengthy hospital stay, I immediately thought of Dean and Chrystal.

The kicker was that this agency was not a local one, this precious little boy was in Dean and Chrystal's home town!

I had the honor of visiting this little one in the hospital when he was just a few days old. I remember looking at this tiny bundle who was swaddled up tight (about as big as a burrito) and marveling at the goodness of God. He was a precious miracle, a LIFE created by God, and he was being placed in an amazing family.

To read more about how Jeremiah is doing today, visit his blog HERE!

Here's a family picture taken this winter by my son Nicholas.

And here I am with Jeremiah at The Zoe Foundation Banquet (adoption fundraiser)

I love you, Jeremiah. Your life is so precious to me!

Kansas City Adoption Workshop- REGISTER NOW!

2009-05-08T09:10:00.001-07:00

Monday May 11th, 7PM (full details below)

Registration extended til Sunday! There are still seats available.

Email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Kansas City Adoption Workshop

2009-04-28T12:18:00.000-07:00

Thank you to all of you who have been waiting patiently for me to get back from Ukraine and have this workshop!

Here are the details:
DATE: Monday, May 11th
TIME: 7:00PM
PLACE: Hope For Adoption
6240 West 135th Street
Overland Park, KS 66223
(In the Deer Creek Office Building- has a large State Farm Office in it)

Registration is required, but the workshop is FREE!!

Please RSVP with

1) names of those attending

2) your address

3) the best phone number to contact you

Please RSVP by May 4th so that I am sure I have enough space!

Call: 816-550-4707

Email: tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

I will be giving a step by step overview of the domestic adoption process, as well as an overview of services with Christian Adoption Consultants.

If you are unable to make this meeting, but would like to get more information on Domestic Adoption or on the benefits of using an adoption consultants, please email me to set up a time to get together for a free initial consultation.

BONUS: Any one who is ready to sign up the night of the workshop will receive 10% off their consulting package.

Celebrating TWO YEARS

2009-03-13T20:13:00.000-07:00

It has been two years now since the adoption of our daughter Elia Jane. WOW!

I will be forever grateful to Amy and Malcolm at Christian Adoption Consultants for walking with my husband and I through our first adoption and playing such a huge part in seeing Elia become part of our family.

I consider it an honor to now work for them, and to help others as they take their own adoption journeys.

Congratulations Kent and Linette

2009-03-13T20:06:00.000-07:00

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl!

Personal Update

2009-01-28T18:11:00.000-08:00

For those of you tracking with this blog that do not follow my personal blog, this will be news to you:

My husband and I are adopting two children and I will be out of the country from February 1st- Mid-March. (My return date is yet unknown) Our personal adoption blog is www.tracieloux.wordpress.com. The blog is private and requires that you set up a wordpress user account at www.wordpress.com and then email me with your user name at tracieloux@gmail.com to introduce yourself and ask to be given permissions.

I will have email access while out of country, but my responses may be delayed. You can email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com for adoption information. You may also visit our website at www.christianadoptionconsultants.com, go to FORMS and download our adoptive parent packet, contract, and application if you are interested in our service.

In my absence you may also email questions to info@christianadoptionconsultants.com and one of our staff will be happy to assist you!

Blessings,
Tracie Loux

(Nick, Taylor, Momma, Elia, Daddy, and Isabelle.... soon to be pictured with TWO MORE!)

The Zoe Foundation

2009-01-13T15:31:00.000-08:00

Our dear friends Randy and Kelsey Bohlender who have started and adoption ministry called THE ZOE FOUNDATION are hosting a Fundraiser in Cincinnati on February 26th. If you have a heart for adoption and would like to attend please visit their website for more information.

Adoption Seminar in North Carolina

2009-01-09T07:51:00.001-08:00

Our adoption seminar in NC will be at the offices of Nathanson Adoption Services.

The address is:

7400 Carmel Executive Park, Suite 355
Charlotte, NC 28226

It will take place Feb 21 and last from 10 AM to 12 PM

If you or someone you know is interested in learning more about the adoption process this is a must attend event!
Topics for the semiar include:

* How to Adopt Safely and Affordably
* Types of Adoption
* Home Study Process and Fees
* How to choose the right Adoption Agency
* Simplifying the Adoption Process and Paperwork
* Common Adoption Myths
* Typical Adoption Costs and Agency Fee Breakdown
* How to Creatively Fund your Adoption
* Frequently Asked Questions

To get more information or to register to attend, call 888-833-1114 or email info@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Seating is limited and reservations are taken on a 'first come, first serve basis.'

We look forward to seeing you there!!!

Adoption Fundraiser

2009-01-01T12:42:00.000-08:00

One of my new couples, Craig and Linda are dear friends and have opened up their home and their heart to adoption. They had a fund raising event just before Christmas that I had the honor of attending.

My very own adoption miracle, Elia Jane!

Sharing my heart on adoption.

Therese and Lou Engle were able to attend this event. We are so blessed to have them in our lives and are so grateful that they carry the message of the Spirit of Adoption as they speak around the nation.

Craig and Linda sharing their hearts at the gathering.

Brianne, my daughter Isabelle's best friend, sharing a dream she had about her family adopting children.

I love this family so much and cannot wait to see what God will do in their lives in 2009 as they open their hearts and their home to the child God has for them.

Congratulations John and Jackie!

2008-12-09T06:56:00.000-08:00

Here's the time line in Jackie's own words:

11.28.08 - Home study is completed
12.4.08 - Submit profile and application to one agency via email
12.5.08 - Get a call about a baby boy being born TODAY - do we want to submit our profile? Of course!
12.5.08 - later that day - Find out It's a Girl! Mom will choose family in the morning
12.6.08 - Waiting for a call to find out if we are chosen - between us and another family
12.6.08 4:30 p.m. - Get the call. We are chosen! Pack in 4 hours and get in the car to drive through the night to FL.
12.7.08 - Arrive in FL. Go to hospital and meet our birthmother and Nora. Nora comes home with us that night.

HOPE FOR ADOPTION Opens in Kansas City

2008-12-08T08:27:00.000-08:00

Just a reminder that we have opened an office in Kansas City, KS. If you are considering adoption and are in need of a home study for the state of Kansas please contact me at tracie@hopeforadoption.com and visit our website at www.hope4adoption.com

Max Lucado on "Adoption"

2008-12-06T06:12:00.001-08:00

God's Mission: Adoption
by Max Lucado

When we come to Christ, God not only forgives us, he also adopts us. Through a dramatic series of events, we go from condemned orphans with no hope to adopted children with no fear. Here is how it happens. You come before the judgment seat of God full of rebellion and mistakes. Because of his justice he cannot dismiss your sin, but because of his love he cannot dismiss you. So, in an act which stunned the heavens, he punished himself on the cross for your sins. God's justice and love are equally honored. And you, God's creation, are forgiven. But the story doesn't end with God's forgiveness.

For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out "Abba! Father!" The Spirit himself bears witness with our Spirit that we are children of God (Rom. 8:15--16 NASB).

But when the fullness of time came, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the Law, in order that He might redeem those who were under the Law, that we might receive the adoption as sons (Gal. 4:4--5 NASB).

It would be enough if God just cleansed your name, but he does more. He gives you his name. It would be enough if God just set you free, but he does more. He takes you home. He takes you home to the Great House of God.

Adoptive parents understand this more than anyone. I certainly don't mean to offend any biological parents--I'm one myself. We biological parents know well the earnest longing to have a child. But in many cases our cribs were filled easily. We decided to have a child and a child came. In fact, sometimes the child came with no decision. I've heard of unplanned pregnancies, but I've never heard of an unplanned adoption.

That's why adoptive parents understand God's passion to adopt us. They know what it means to feel an empty space inside. They know what it means to hunt, to set out on a mission, and take responsibility for a child with a spotted past and a dubious future. If anybody understands God's ardor for his children, it's someone who has rescued an orphan from despair, for that is what God has done for us.

God has adopted you. God sought you, found you, signed the papers and took you home.
From The Great House of God
Copyright (W Publishing Group, 1997) Max Lucado

Congratulations Elisabeth and Rusty

2008-11-25T07:25:00.001-08:00

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful daughter!
Born November 4, 2008

(Note: I got to hold this little one in church two Sundays ago, and the miracle of adoption was just so real in my heart. I wept thinking that this precious life has found an incredible family and that God has such an incredible plan for her life! I hope to post more pictures of this little girl soon!)

Congratulations Brent and Lizzie

2008-11-25T06:46:00.000-08:00

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful daughter.
Born Nov. 24th

Brent and Lizzie started with CAC on 6/30/08
finished their home study on 8/15/08
and were matched on 8/29/08!

For more information on services please visit www.christianadoptionconsultants.com
or email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

HOPE FOR ADOPTION Opens in Kansas City

2008-11-19T09:48:00.000-08:00

After much hard work Amy and Malcolm Young, the couple that I work for with Christian Adoption Consultants are official licensed with HOPE FOR ADOPTION, as a child placing agency here in Kansas City, KS. Please help us spread the good news!

If you are interested in talking to me about adoption please contact me to set up an appointment for a FREE initial consultation.

Also if you are in the Kansas City area and know of a great place for us to distribute Birth Mom literature, please let us know.

Please email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

The next step now is to get the word out so that we can lovingly serve and care for Birth Mom's in need in our community and connect them with amazing Christian families. And Pray for us!

FREE Adoption Seminar in Atlanta

2008-11-19T09:17:00.000-08:00

Atlanta Adoption Seminar! Our next FREE adoption seminar will be in Atlanta, GA on Dec 6 starting at 10 am. For more information please click HERE or to register call 888-833-1114

or email tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Adoption Announcements!

2008-11-11T18:10:00.000-08:00

A friend shared a link to this great site where you can order ADOPTION ANNOUNCEMENTS!

Adoption Myth

2008-11-06T06:44:00.000-08:00

Myth: Adoption in only for couples with no children or who struggle with infertility.

(Steve and Tiffany's children with their beautiful baby sister!)

Facts: While may couples who adopt do struggle with infertility and find adoption as a beautiful way to build a family, adoption in not limited to couples with no children. There are agencies who limit applications to childless couples, but the agencies that we are connected with do not hold that view. There are so many children in need of families and many of the couples I work with have biological children. We have worked with families with as many as 7 children who have had successfully adoptions using our services.

If you have a heart for adoption and already have children please don't let that hold you back. There are babies today who are in need of a loving, Christian family to welcome them in and love them forever!

Please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com for more information on our adoption services.

Congratulations Steve and Tiffany

2008-11-02T02:37:00.000-08:00

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl! What a journey this has been. We are all so happy for you.

Steve and Tiffany started with CAC in mid-April, were matched in mid-September, and their baby girl was born October 31st. For more information on our consulting services please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Our Birth Mom's Story

2008-10-17T08:57:00.000-07:00

This story is very dear to me, because it was written by the birth mom of our daughter, Elia. I am honored that she would write it for me, and blessed to be able to share it with you. -Tracie

"Hello. My name is Heather and my husband and I chose adoption for our daughter. Many ask why I would choose that over abortion or keeping her to raise myself. Well, to be honest, I would have loved to raise her, but the situation I was in was not the type that was best for my child. There weren't any drugs or alcohol. We just weren't ready to raise a child. I have always felt that a child should be offered all there is in life. And at the time we weren't able to provide that for her.

My father was adopted, and in turn adopted me when he met my mother. So when I found out that I was pregnant, he mentioned adoption. And to me, abortion was not an option, because my child was conceived voluntarily. Not that she was planned, but was in no way not wanted. At first it was a definite no. In my younger days I felt that if a woman was mature enough get pregnant, then she was mature enough to take responsibility for that child and do her best to raise him or her. However, when it's you that is in the situation, things change. I wanted to make things work, but later did some thinking and much praying. I asked God to give me the the strength and knowledge to do what was best for my child. Even though she wasn't here yet, I had such love for my baby. After a few weeks of praying and lots of tears, I knew what was best, to give this child a family that would not only love her unconditionally, but could also give her everything we couldn't. I feel that a child needs more than just love to grow and be successful in life.

When it came time to pick a family for my daughter, I was a bit unsure. How was I going to know that they would be perfect for her? What if I picked the wrong family? My mom went with me to the adoption agency, and when they handed me the profile for the Loux family, it only took a minute to decide. I opened the pages, and I had never been more sure of something in my whole life. It was like God said, "This is the family I have chosen for your child." All my fears of making the wrong decision were gone. And the first time I talked to them on the phone, was like I was talking to a sister. We only had a few short weeks before my baby arrived, and as any parent I was nervous. The minute I saw Tracie and John, there was no doubt that God had given me this child so that I could bless their family. I now believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason.

At first I didn't want an open adoption. I thought that I could get back to a normal life if there was no constant memory of the difficult decision I had made. But as soon as I saw Tracie and John with Elia, I just felt that there was more of a connection there. Tracie, being open to a relationship with us, actually made the transition easier because now I could see Elia’s progress. I could see the love in the other children's faces, and the unconditional adoration that the whole family had for my baby girl. I love having a relationship with Tracie and John. I'm not sure that I could have gone through with the whole thing without God's continued peace, my families' support and love, and my wonderful connection with the Loux Family.

My husband and I are now expecting our own child, a baby boy. Because of the experience with the adoption, we have been able to reconnect in our marriage, and stabilize our lives. The continued relationship I have with Tracie and John has given me hope that one day, many years from now, Elia will always know that her birth mom and dad love her very much. We didn't "give" her away. We simply found a wonderful, loving and compassionate family to take care of her, love her and give her every option she desires in life."

Adoption Open House

2008-10-16T08:44:00.000-07:00

I am having a small gathering of couples at my home on Monday, October 20th from 7:00-8:30PM. If there are any local couples that would like to join us to get more information on domestic adoption, please email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Because this gathering is in my home, I have limited seating, so please email me immediately if you are interested in attending.

One Birth Mom's Story

2008-10-14T14:58:00.000-07:00

"It was 26 years ago that I was faced with the most heart wrenching decision of my life. I had barely turned 16 and found myself pregnant. I was so blessed to have a supportive and loving family who sought godly counsel. Through that counsel we were directed to a wonderful Christian adoption agency. I am so very thankful to my pregnancy counselor, and to the loving staff who loved and prayed for me during this difficult time.

Through their guidance, I came to the conclusion that the best scenario for my baby was adoption. I had such a peace about my decision – the kind of peace that can only come from the Lord. Back then adoptions were usually closed. So I know very little about my child and nothing about her whereabouts to this day. However, I am confident that the Lord has kept His hand on her just as He has me all these years. His peace has sustained me all these years. And it is that perfect peace that calms my heart as I realize I may never meet her face to face. I can say, with all confidence, that I have not one regret about my decision. However, there is not a day that passes that I do not think about my daughter. Wondering what she looks like, where she is and what her life is like.

I pray she loves Jesus.

It is the forever families who are willing to invest in the lives of unknown children out of obedience to their Lord. They are then able to have an impact on eternity. Whenever I meet a family who has adopted, I make it a point to thank them for saying “yes” to God. For without them, adoption would not be possible.

I am forever grateful to the family who said yes to the Lord’s call to adopt my daughter. My hope and prayer is that many children would receive the gift of a forever family to love them and one day assist in leading them into a decision to follow Christ. After all, we have the best example of adoption and the story is written in His gospel. My God, by His infinite grace and mercy and by His love, grafted me into his family. I’m so glad He chose me."

…to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us,

Ephesians 3:19,20

-Lisa

Louisville Adoption Seminar

2008-10-02T08:52:00.000-07:00

We are holding a FREE, informational adoption seminar in Louisville, KY on October 18th from 10:30 - noon. The seminar will be held at Northeast Christian Church. Topics will include:

* How to Adopt Quickly and Affordably
* Homestudy Process and Prices
* How to Choose the Right Agency
* Simplifying the Process and Paperwork
* Common Adoption Myths
* Typical Agency Fees and Cost Breakdowns
* How to Creatively Fund Your Adoption
* Frequently Asked Questions

If you or someone you know is considering adoption, I highly encourage you to attend or pass the word on to couples you know who may be interested. Space is limited, so please call 502-442-7806 to register.

Post-Adoption Symptoms

2008-10-01T13:13:00.000-07:00

I was just with an adoptive mom this morning helping her with her newborn girls. We were discussing the similarities between the emotional and physical toll of delivering a baby and having that new baby at home, and of adopting a baby and having that new baby at home. Our conclusion- it's not much different!

When I was carrying around our newly adopted daughter, I heard comments like this, "Must be nice to have a baby and not have to do all the hard work." Now, I'm not knocking the fact that carrying a baby for 9 months, along with labor and delivery is exhausting. I've done it three times! I am simply writing for all of you new adoptive moms or soon-to-be adoptive moms to let you know you're not crazy if you feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and emotional after bringing your baby home.

Adoption is labor. It is a labor of the heart. You wait, you carry a child in your heart, deep in your emotions, sometimes for months! It is an emotional roller coaster many times, and it is tough on the heart. It is physically challenging as well, the paperwork, hours of writing, and running here and there to gather all that is needed for your home study, applications and so forth takes its toll. We sometimes tell couples, "Your paperwork pregnant now!" The adoption process is a a labor of love- it is a deep, incredible experience that I wouldn't trade for anything!

There is many times an initial emotional reaction to a child you are about to adopt (speaking mostly to mom's at the moment) that I honestly believe causes a hormonal shift in your body. I can't document this scientifically, and I could do some research I guess, but that's not the point of what I am writing. I know from the experiences of both natural birth and adoptive birth that the impact was much the same on my emotions!

Finally, there is the practical issue of sleep-deprivation. This impacts an adoptive couple no differently that any other couple with a new born at home! Adoptive mom's often get remarks like this, "Wow, you look great, you're still in the same jeans!" I always thought, "Yeah, my jean size is still the same, but I'm not getting any solid sleep, my emotions have been on a roller coaster, and I'm worn out. The size of my jeans has nothing to do with how I am doing!"

So to all you soon-to-be adoptive families or new adoptive families out there, much grace and strength to you today! May your journey be blessed and full of joy. Know that it is a labor of love, one that will be richly rewarded.

I welcome comments from adoptive moms and dads that might help or encourage another adoptive couple!

Happy Family!

2008-10-01T12:27:00.000-07:00

I already congratulated Scott and Caroline on the birth of their son, but these new pictures were too cute not to post!

Congratulations Scott and Caroline

2008-09-26T19:40:00.000-07:00

Scott and Caroline started with CAC in . They finished their homestudy in mid-June and were matched mid-August. Their son was born September 25th!

If you would like more information about our services, please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Because You Asked: What is a Profile?

2008-09-25T14:17:00.000-07:00

A Family Profile is a creative way to tell a birth mother about your family, your thoughts on adoption, and your plans for the future. Over the years we’ve noticed that certain profiles stand out from the rest and are more appealing to birth moms than others. We get a lot of agency feedback on our profiles, and many times it is the profile presentation and design that attract the birth mom to our couples.

It is important that a profile be creatively and professionally done. The presentation of a profile to a birth mom is your first, and sometimes only, opportunity to introduce yourselves, and it is so important to put your best foot forward.

Creating the Family Profile is one of the services we offer, whether you are using our consulting services or not. We have learned over the years how to help couples communicate their thoughts to a birth mom in a warm and comforting way.

If you are interested in learning more about our services, please contact me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Here are a few sample pages from one of the profiles that I have designed.

I Love It When I Get To Do This

2008-09-22T14:58:00.001-07:00

It's especially nice when one of my couples brings a baby home to KC.
I LOVE IT when I get to snuggle one of the precious bundles I get to help bring to their forever family!
Congratulations once again, Steven and Kristi, she's a doll!

Because You Asked: What is a Home Study?

2008-09-22T07:59:00.000-07:00

Each adoptive family is required to complete an adoption home study. This process is usually a 4-6 week period in which a licensed social worker is assigned to meet with the prospective family to determine their readiness to become adoptive parents. This can be an intimidating and stressful experience. You will need to find a licensed agency or licensed social worker in your area who does home studies. Our goal is to relieve some of the anxiety by connecting clients with a social worker or home study agency that meets their needs in regards to individual situations.

The home study usually consists of the following: A meeting with the husband and wife together, a meeting with the husband and the wife individually, and a visit to the prospective adoptive parent’s home.

Be prepared to discuss:
• Reason for infertility/reason for adoption
• Childhood experiences (how you were disciplined, relationship with siblings, etc)
• Current marriage, previous marriage(s) and reason for divorce (if applicable)
• How you discipline or plan to discipline your children
• How you solve conflict in your home
• Extended family's attitude towards adoption
• Trans-racial adoption (if you are open to other ethnic groups)

Typical Paperwork:
(most social workers/home study agencies require the following)
Marriage license and divorce decrees (if applicable)
Birth certificates
Copy of Drivers License
Recent pay stubs and Employment Verification
Proof of health insurance will be required (They will most likely want a copy of the card)
Physical examinations for all individuals over the age of 18 (You will need to obtain the form from the social worker before going to the doctor)
Tax forms for the previous year
Immunization records and letter of good health from pediatrician for children residing in the home
Immunization records for any family pets
3-4 reference letters from non-family members that you have known for at least one year (The letters need to state why they think that you will be a good candidate for adoption. They should also provide their phone numbers, and will most likely be contacted for a short telephone interview)
State criminal record check for anyone over the age of 18 living in the home (You can go to the police department and tell them that you need a criminal record check for the purpose of adoption)
Fingerprint cards (State and some times Federal fingerprint checks are required)
Fire Arm Statement (if you have fire arms they are properly stored and locked for safety)
Swimming Pool Statement (if you have a pool, proper safety precautions have been taken)
Reference letters from the prospective adoptive grandparents are usually needed (The letters need to state how they feel about having an adoptive grandchild, and how they plan to treat the child)
If you have a septic tank, they will require that you have it inspected

Paperwork is the most time consuming part of the home study process. By collecting your paperwork before your first visit, you will be able to speed up the process. This will be helpful if a placement is found for you in a short time frame.

If you have a concern about the home study process, please let us know. We will be happy to advise you and put your mind at ease prior to the home study process. The main thing to remember is to be completely honest during the entire home study process. It is better to have everything out in the open, rather than for them to discover that you have not been truthful.

Birth Mothers: Story 1

2008-09-21T09:14:00.001-07:00

There are many misconceptions about birth mothers out there, and I wanted to share a few of my own experiences with birth mom's who are facing the decision to choose adoption for their children from time to time.

Here is one that I was just made aware of yesterday:

One of my couples was matched with a birth mom this weekend. Without sharing too much information, her circumstances did not allow her to raise this child. She considered an abortion, but could not go through with it.

She wanted to know if this family had a problem with fact that the baby would be African American, to which they shared their hearts with her on this issue and told her that they would love the child as their own regardless of the color of his/her skin. She wanted to know what they would tell the child about her. They reassured her that they would speak about her in a positive way and share with the child that she made a loving decision on their behalf in choosing to give LIFE.

She said that when she saw their profile, she knew that they were the ones. She said that she chose them because they looked like they had fun together, had the values she was looking for, and were a Christian family. She asked if they would give the child a Biblical name. They were able to share with her that all of their children had Biblical names and this child would be given one as well.

This birth mom is not due for several weeks, but I look forward to the day I can share pictures of this precious life and the wonderful family that said YES.

I hope this story does a few things for you:
1. I hope it breaks the myth that birth mom's don't care. They typically care and care very deeply about the choice they are making.
2. I hope this reminds us all to pray for LIFE. This woman was facing an abortion and "couldn't go through with it". I believe that this is one of many lives that was saved as the result of prayer! Maybe it was YOU that was praying that day she faced that decision and chose life.
3. I hope this story inspires you to put your YES on the line and consider adopting one of the many African American children who need godly, Christian homes.

For more information about adoption feel free to email me at tracie@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Congratulations Randy and Kelsey

2008-09-19T19:31:00.000-07:00

My dear friends Randy and Kelsey just got their home study done, I finished their profile, and got them headed in the right direction with agency applications, and WHAAA LA, God had other plans!

In a swirl of activity and lots of unexpected events they have just welcomed two beautiful baby girls into their family! You can follow their BLOG for details! This is an extra special day for me, because I am an "auntie!"

If you want to understand the true spirit of adoption, don't look any further than the hearts of this couple! They heard there was a need, said yes, and got on a plane. They gave no consideration to the social/medical history of these little ones, didn't even ask their race, didn't worry that the bank account didn't match the anticipated costs, but just said YES! In fact, they didn't find out the race of their beautiful Asian/CC beauties until arrived at their destination.

There are babies TODAY that need homes! Babies today that need families to yes regardless of race, regardless of medical issues, and regardless of the sacrifice of finances.

If you have a yes in your heart please contact me to talk about how you can welcome a child in need of a loving family into your home!

Congratulations Steven and Kristi

2008-09-16T20:47:00.002-07:00

Steven and Kristi began their adoption journey in mid-February. They finished their home study on April 1st and were matched June 2nd! Their beautiful daughter was born on September 11th.

The happy news is I get to visit this new little family this weekend, and I'll have more photos to post I'm sure! Steven and Kristi are friends of ours and it has been an honor to work as their adoption consultant.

Malcolm and Amy's Blog

2008-09-09T14:56:00.000-07:00

Amy and Malcolm have a few new articles on the Christian Adoption Consultants blog. It's worth stopping over to read them! Great information!

1.5 MILLION DOLLARS FOR ADOPTIONS!!!

2008-08-25T19:32:00.001-07:00

American Express is giving away a 2.5 million dollar to different organizations who are doing charitable work, and who also get enough nominations to qualify to be chosen for this project. The top organization will receive 1.5 MIL and a additional 1 MIL will be divided between three other worthy organizations. We need 700 more votes to help qualify a very important organization called Reece's Rainbow. They are doing a tremendous job of helping orphaned Down Syndrome children through their adoption agency. This is the agency that where Derek and Renee are adopting Misha. If Reeces Rainbow were to win this gift, this would enable them to adopt out almost all of the waiting DS children with full grants!

You DO NOT have to own an American Express card to vote. Just sign in as a guest and remember to vote for Reece's Rainbow.
It will only take 1 to 2 minutes of your time and your vote could make it possible for an orphan to be placed in a forever family. Thanks so much for considering this wonderful opportunity to make a difference in the life of an orphan.

Please log on to THIS SITE to vote!
God bless you!

Financing Adoptions

2008-08-13T12:45:00.000-07:00

I was recently asked about creative adoption financing. I thought I'd put links to all of my past posts on fund raising or adoption financing here in one post for those of you who are new to my blog.
Hope this is helpful. Click on the title to go to the post.

God Finances Adoption

Adoption Fundraising 101

Our Fundraiser

Silent Auctions

One of the couples I'm working with is throwing a fund raiser September 13th. Check out their INVITATION at their blog, and while you're at it why don't you consider giving a donation to their adoption fund! There's a handy pay pal link on their blog.

Congratulations Jonathan and Jennifer

2008-07-28T17:22:00.001-07:00

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful son!
We are so happy for you.

(Jonathan and Jennifer started with CAC on February 16th, completed their home study near the end of March, were matched on July 15th and their son was born July 23rd! )

Dean and Chrystal Update

2008-07-13T10:19:00.000-07:00

My first adoptive couple, Dean and Chrystal have posted a great story on the adoption of their son Jeremiah on their blog.
I encourage you to read it! Click Here

Congratulations Ron and Pam

2008-07-02T15:28:00.000-07:00

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl!
We are so happy for you.

(Ron and Pam started with CAC on June 2nd and their daughter was born on June 28th!)

Celebrating an Adoption

2008-06-24T13:26:00.000-07:00

This post goes out to you who love adoption, want to adopt someday but aren't ready, or just want to get behind others who are adopting. I've even had people come up to me and ask how they can help the couples I'm working with who want to adopt. I love that!

One of the obvious ways that you can help an adoptive couple is financially. Giving to adoption funds, helping them with fund raisers, etc.

In this post, however, I want to address the emotional support that adoptive couples long for from their family and friends. I've read enough blogs and heard enough stories to know that not all adoptive families receive the overwhelming support of their families and friends, and it really makes me sad.

Some people just don't understand. Some people think you're crazy. Some people have a hard time celebrating and connecting with a child they haven't met yet. Many times they want to know who the child is and when they will be arriving, and many times the answer is "We don't know. We're waiting." There are many reasons why, but I want to focus on how you can help support adoptive couples emotionally through the process.

1. Pray- adoptive couples need your prayers. They have embarked on a journey of faith and regardless of why they are adopting, the journey is emotional and hard at times. Partner with them in praying for their unborn child's safety and protection, pray for the birth mother that she is getting godly counsel and good care. If they are waiting on an international adoption, ask them what specific things you can pray for them in regards to the child they are waiting on.

2. Listen- ask how their adoption is going, spend time listening and being supportive.

3. Celebrate with them- A couple who has been matched is typically walking around with butterflies in their stomaches non-stop. They are faced with the fear of all the what if's surrounding an adoption. They want to celebrate and be excited and they are, but they are also afraid of potential disappointment.

WAYS TO CELEBRATE:
1. Have a baby shower! Yes, have a baby shower. Please do this for your friends who are adopting- they are having a baby! Do what you would for any of your friend who are expecting a child. Our daughter arrived so quickly that our shower was a "Welcome Home Elia" party as well. Here's My Little Darlin' at Her Baby Shower

Here are two links to the great celebrations of two adoptive moms.
SHAWNDA'S SHOWER
DANA'S SHOWER

(I would like to note that I think that this should be done even for couples who are adopting an older child. Check with the family first and see what type of celebrating they think the child can handle. If the child is working through adjustment issues, it may be best to collect gifts and have a drop off shower!)

2. Take the adoptive mom out for lunch and help her register for baby things. It's fun! I had a friend do this for me. It had been 9 years since my last baby, and honestly I didn't even know where to start. We had fun, we laughed a lot!

3. Help get the nursery ready.

4. Volunteer to take care of their children, house, pets, etc, when they are out of town to pick up the baby. We were blessed to have family help us out and stay with our kids.

5. Have a welcome home party!

6. We invited all of our family and friends for a Blessing Service at our home.

7. Organize meals to be brought in once they are home with the baby. Bringing home a new baby is always an adjustment, and even new adoptive moms are tired moms!

8. Help out with younger children if there are little ones at home. I had a friend call and ask if she could take my older three to the zoo a few days after we were home with the baby. It as such a loving gesture and was really appreciated!

** These acts of love can be poured out on a family regardless of the age of the child they are bringing home! An adoptive family just wants to feel that you are rejoicing and celebrating the arrival of their newest family member!

My list is hardly comprehensive. I would love it if those of you who have adopted would share some great, creative ways that your family and friends celebrated your adoption.

Employee Adoption Benefits on the Rise

2008-06-23T06:20:00.000-07:00

For a great article on the increase of employee adoption benefits go to CNN.com

If you're considering adoption, make sure you inquire to find out if your employer offers adoption benefits. I've seen benefits include reimbursement for expenses ranging from $2,000-10,000. In addition many companies are offering time off for adoption travel. I even have heard of one case where an employee asked his company to consider adding adoption benefits, explained to them the benefit of creating an adoption benefit package, and the employer added this to the company benefit plan!

Congratulations Amy and Malcolm

2008-06-21T18:36:00.001-07:00

Amy and Malcolm are the founders of Christian Adoption Consultants. They just celebrated the arrival of their son, Max. They have helped hundreds of couples in their adoption journey and are now adopting their second child!
Congratulations guys! I love you and I'm so excited for you!
McKenna, you're such a beautiful big sister!
To read their full adoption story visit their blog!

Dave Thomas and Wendy's Celebrate Father's Day

2008-06-11T08:20:00.001-07:00

Dads rock. And so does a Frosty over Father’s weekend (June 14-15). Why? Well, participating Wendy’s ® stores will be donating 50¢ of every Frosty product sold to the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. The funds are vital to helping us find permanent, loving families for children in foster care. So how about surprising your dad with a frosty and enjoy a good treat for a good cause?

Help us spread the word about the Rockin’ Father’s Day Frosty. Send this video to friends and family today!

We've Been Matched- Now What?

2008-06-04T06:28:00.000-07:00

The adoption journey is full of preparation and waiting. Intitially there is the sometimes grueling process of the home study, with mounds of paperwork and lots of running here and there for physicals, background checks, reference letters, and so forth. Trusting the Lord for finances when it seems impossible. Then the agency application process... ugghhh! More paperwork!

Next, the Waiting Room.... waiting to be presented to a birth mom, waiting to see if she picks you, waiting for the next situation and the next... until you are MATCHED!

Many couples literally feel pregnant with expectation through this whole process with a huge array of emotions that follow. It's a journey of the heart and the heart feels deeply through this whole process. Longing for and loving a child you have never met, is an incredible experience.

THE MATCH! After the initial rush and excitement of having been chosen, once again you wait. It was very sobering during this waiting process to think that somewhere out there a woman had looked upon our family and decided that we were worthy somehow to raise this child she carried. I remember feeling so in love with this baby- and having a deep sense of longing in my heart for her. And I remember facing fear of all the what if's.

When faced with the "now what?" after the match, here is my advice.
1. Pray. Pray now more than you have up until this point. Pray for the birth mom and pray for the child in her womb. Speak the Word of God over their lives and believe that God's hand is upon them both.
2. Journal, if you like to write. I wrote almost daily to my daughter before I knew her, so that one day she would know how much I anticipated her arrival. I did this for each of my children, and I wanted our adoption to be no different.
3. Get ready! Allow yourself to prepare. For those of you that are waiting after being disappointed, I know this is harder. But if you are near your due date, I would prepare just as you would for any child.
4. Talk. Talk to others who have been in the waiting room before! Have a support system that really understand what you are experiencing.

When we waited for our daughter Elia, we spoke of her by name. Prayed for her by name. Prayed for her birth family daily. We bought baby clothes, painted her room, put her crib together, and all of the things that make anticipating a baby's arrival the celebration that it should be!

Were their days that fear hit me? Absolutely. Because I've carried children and adopted, I remember reminding myself that I had trusted the Lord with each of my children- and that I needed to do the same with this one. I miscarried one, gave birth to three, and carried one in my heart. I celebrated each and anticipated the arrival of each with all of my heart.

If you have been MATCHED and are in the Waiting Room, I'm praying for you today!

NEW: Minority Adoption Program

2008-06-02T13:01:00.000-07:00

For couples adopting African American children Our Minority Adoption Program is a special program that offers adoption services to couples who wish to adopt African American children.This program has three main objectives

1) To educate people on the need to adopt African American children,
2) To actively recruit African American or Inter-racial couples to adopt, and
3) To greatly reduce the cost of adoption.

Remembering the Chapman Family in Prayer

2008-05-22T07:15:00.000-07:00

Steven Curtis and Mary Beth Chapman have been voices in the adoption world for years. Not only have they preached the message, they have lived it and made it possible for others to walk out their adoption journeys through their financial support.

We remember them today and pray for them as they grieve the loss of their daughter and begin to heal as a family.

Tracie and John: DVD adoption videos

2008-05-17T11:15:00.001-07:00

One of the services that we offer to our clients is the Profile service. One of my favorite things to do is prepare the photo book profiles for my clients. A profile is what is presented to a birth mom in order to help her get to know your family and choose which family she feels will offer her child the kind of home she is wanting for them.

In addition we offer DVD profile services which is just one more way for agencies to present your family to a particular birth mom. We were just reminiscing this morning about our adoption journey and took a look on more time at our DVD profile prepared by Christian Adoption Consultants.

Profile Services

2008-05-17T11:04:00.000-07:00

Congratulations Mike and Stephanie

2008-05-16T06:00:00.000-07:00

What a beautiful baby girl! And what an incredible family has welcomed her into their hearts.

Bittersweet by Gay Lewis

2008-05-05T17:09:00.000-07:00

This moving story told by Gay Lewis relays her family's journey through teen pregnancy and adoption. It is a true story of the grace of God and the miracle of restoration. I encourage anyone who has chosen adoption for their child, anyone who has adopted or is considering adoption, and anyone who has been adopted to read this family's story.

Gay and her husband stood by their daughter as she made the choice for adoption for her baby. 25 years later, their daughter Laurie is reunited with her child, Claire. It is a story of restoration that will open your heart to look at adoption from more than your own point of view.

As an adoptive mother, I encourage you to read this story. It has impacted my heart on so many levels and has stirred me to an even greater respect for the sacrifice made by birth families every day.

“Beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for a spirit of heaviness.” (Isaiah 61:3 KJV)

Bittersweet can be purchased on their website www.bittersweetthebook.com

Open Adoption/ Closed Adoption

2008-05-04T12:56:00.000-07:00

There are typically three general categories of adoption openness: Closed Adoption, Semi-Private, and Open Adoption. I'm sure that even as you read that list, you may already have a mindset about what type of adoption you'd be open to should you choose to adopt someday. I made a comment the other day that many of our ideas about the openness of adoption may have been formed by watching Lifetime movies. I'm only half joking.

So here goes my opinion on the issue.

On closed adoption. As nice as this may seem to you in theory, have you really thought about what this might mean to you and your adopted child. From the stand point of an adoptive parent or soon-to-be adoptive parent you may be thinking, "I bring my child home, close the door and he/she is ours, end of story." I'm only at the beginning of the story in my home (our daughter is only 1 yr old), and I know better. We will never keep our daughters adoption a secret from her, and there will be a day when her questions will come from a deep place in her heart and from a longing to understand the choices that were made about her life before she was born. I would never want to be in a place to tell her that I know nothing about her birth family. I don't ever want to hold my daughter at age 13 as she's going through puberty, questioning her identity and tell her that I know nothing. There are numerous other practical reasons that I feel that closed adoption is often not in the best interest of the child.

On semi-private adoption. This allows the option of knowing a bit about your child's birth family, even talking to them on the phone or meeting them prior to or after the child's birth. This can allow you to have some level of contact, even if monitored by an agency, so that the birth family can receive letters and pictures from you. In a semi-private adoption, you are given the ability to some day give your child the gift of having answers to some of their questions. You may be able to relay to your child the reason that the choice for adoption was made. You may know some helpful things about the birth mother and her family such as their interests and hobbies, medical conditions, and you may even have a photo of them, or letters from them to present to your child when the time is right. Not only are you able to give your child loving answers, you are also able to bless a birth mom and her family by giving them updates and photos that may help them to feel reassured of their decision.

On open adoption. There was a day when I would have, perhaps out of ignorance, steered away from any situation that was asking for an open adoption. Though I know this is not for every one, I would encourage you to not completely close yourself off to this option. I certainly would not push anyone in this direction, but would encourage you to be open to it on a situation by situation basis. Do some reading, talk to other families who have had experiences with open adoption, and make that decision for yourself.

I would welcome any comments that might be helpful to adoptive couples trying to make the decision about type of adoption they are willing to pursue. I will post any comments or questions that might be helpful to other couples who are pursuing adoption.

Congratulations!

2008-05-01T14:41:00.001-07:00

One of my couples with their son!
God is so faithful.